How to avoiding and report online crimes against children, including images of child sexual abuse and grooming of children for later abuse.
Excellent response to a poor quality report published which attempts to deny the damage caused by child abuse.
Read my own blog entry here https://tellaboutabuse.wordpress.com/2013/04/04/childhood-abuse-and-dissociative-disorders/
- Growing Not Dwindling: Worldwide Phenomenon of Dissociative Disorders, Disinformation About Dissociation Dr Joel Paris’s Notions About Dissociative Identity Disorder (tellaboutabuse.wordpress.com)
- Childhood Abuse and Dissociative Disorders (tellaboutabuse.wordpress.com)
- Dissociative Identity Disorder/Multiple Personality Disoder and Schizophrenia – Clinical differences (tellaboutabuse.wordpress.com)
- Dissociation: Stepping Back From What We Love (firesurvivors.com)
- Living with the Awareness of Evil (traumatherapy.typepad.com)
- Easter Weekend: Sorting through the Layers Within (mirrorgirlblog.com)
LETTERS TO THE EDITOR The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease & Volume 201, Number 4, April 2013 http://www.jonmd.com p. 353 – 358
Growing Not Dwindling: Worldwide Phenomenon of Dissociative Disorders
To the Editor:
In the December 2012 issue of the Journal, Joel Paris, MD, wrote an article about the current status of dissociative identity disorder (DID) and the dissociative disorder field in general. He suggests that DID is merely a ‘‘fad’’ and that there is no credible evidence to connect traumatic experiences with the development of DID. We refute several of the claims made by Dr Paris.
Our biggest concern as non-North American researchers is that Dr Paris does not reference a single international study related to dissociative disorders and DID, despite the considerable and increasing empirical literature from around the world. His speculation that DID is not diagnosed outside clinics that specialize in treating dissociation is not consistent…
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The damage caused by child abuse
Mental health problems are often caused by childhood abuse, so raising awareness of mental health problems can help people recover and heal from such abuse. It has also been shown that survivors of abuse do sometimes become abusers, and that recovering from the own abuse is key to preventing this.
Common psychiatric diagnoses that often result from Child Abuse include Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder (which often has roots in emotional neglect) and Dissociative Disorders.
Why do people try to denying the damage?
This blog post raises awareness of Dr‘s attempt to dismiss Dissociative Disorders, which would both deny people treatment and reduce awareness of the abuse which cause the disorders.
His article suggested that one particular disorder – Dissociative Identity Disorder was a ‘fad’, despite it’s inclusion in the DSM psychiatric manual for several decades.
A letter in response to his article, written by specialists is Dissociative Disorders can be found http://eassurvey.wordpress.com/2013/04/04/growing-not-dwindling-worldwide-phenomenon-of-dissociative-disorders-disinformation-about-dissociation-dr-joel-pariss-notions-about-dissociative-identity-disorder/
What is the reality here?
I did some research and here are some simple figures from Google Scholar which show the number of articles (excluding patents) covering the two main dissociative disorders. Sadly Google Scholar only gives approximate numbers rather than exact ones, it says ‘About 193’ for instance. It all got rather complicated so here is the graph of the results looking at articles for each 5 year period since 1998.
Basically, these results back of the findings of the letter I’m blogging about.
In the last 5 years 2,270 out of 3130 academic articles on “dissociative identity disorder” have also included abuse, over 70%, again refuting Dr Paris’s assumptions.
So I looked at the last 5 years of academic papers written by Joel Paris, 240 appeared, none of those on the first page had a heading with Dissociative or Dissociation in it. Search for “Joel Paris” Dissociative for the last five years gave only two results with Dissociative in the title – the letter I’m blogging about, and the original article.
Not exactly his key interest then.
Some explanation of using Google Scholar in my research…
“Dissociative Identity Disorder” found about 1,920 between 1990 and 2000, increasing to 5,320 articles between 2000 and 2010.
I thought this might be a bit of an unfair search since it used to be known as “Multiple Personality Disorder” and is still called them in the main international psychiatric manual, and was called that in the older versions of the DSM manual, so I searched for that term instead, and found about 4740 results between 1990 and 2000, and about 5840 results from 2000 to 2010 – so still an increase despite the term being rarely used now.
The next disorder in severity is known as “
The DDNOS results from about 193 to 396 results over the same periods.
In the end I just went back and searched in 5 year periods, from 2013 backwards.
No matter how many ways I looked at the data the rise in diagnosis was clear, as was the number of articles now focused on treatment rather than questioning the evidence and cause of dissociative disorders.
Please share this to raise awareness of those working against child abuse awareness.
- Growing not Dwindling – the Worldwide Phenomenon of Dissociative Disorders
- Discussing Dissociation (Kathy Broady)
- What is Dissociation? (manyfoggydays.wordpress.com)
- Confusion (trublue20.wordpress.com)
- Wellness Wednesday: Demystifying PTSD (rhachellenicol.com)
Emotional abuse at the hands of a partner is rarely talked about.
Here is a useful blog post about separating from an emotionally abusive partner, and about how time apart allows you to see things more clearly, reflect on issues which day to day life was masking.
Share this blog to raise awareness of a situation many people find it hard to escape from.
Some emotionally abusive people are also violent, but don’t kid yourself here – emotion abuse without violence is deeply damaging.
Read here about the history of Child Abuse Laws and policy in the United States.
New York City was the first place to bring in child abuse laws, after the dreadful abuse of Mary Ellen was discovered in 1873.
The awareness of the abuse of Mary Ellen brought about these changes.
Do you think that animals are still better protected than children?
Are children still treated as the “property” of their parents?
What more can be done to protect children from abuse, and to prevent abuse?
What happened to Mary Ellen after she was rescued?
Read about how her life changed here:
Sharing a wonderful post today about how abusive people try to manipulate those raising awareness.
Abusive Tactics Identified:
1) Inappropriate familiarity.
2) Defining reality: claiming special or superior insight into the victim’s thoughts and motives – “I would question your heart.”
3) Shifting blame from the guilty party to the victim, working to instill self-doubt – “Is that really necessary?”
”Bob, we have heard these tactics before many times. We reject them.”
reblogging this article, which contains some details of abuse
About you & young people you know
Children suffering abuse or neglect often tell their friends first – here is how to help, or what to do if you are being neglected or abused.
Firstly, don’t ignore it!
Easy things to do are to find out more about how to help, and to tell your friend that it’s not their fault.
Secondly, don’t keep it secret – but be careful who you tell
Tell people who can help, especially if it’s their job to help – call a children’s helpline or charity, tell a doctor or teacher you trust, or your parents.
If the first person you tell doesn’t listen then just keep telling.
Don’t tell people who might gossip or find it interesting – adults are the best people to tell because they often know what to do, and can help reassure you.
Keeping secrets about child abuse only protects the person doing the abuse, and lets them carry on doing it.
Lastly – Don’t worry about being believed – report it anyway
Often young people being neglected or abused can be angry and misbehave. Sometimes they might have told lies about small things in the past, but lying about child abuse is very, very rare.
If you report abuse through a helpline, or to someone whose job means they can report abuse then they have a duty not to judge the child, only to investigate the neglect or abuse. The person might be abusing other people as well, or might have abused other people in the past.
How abusers might try to stop abusing being reported
Many abusers pick on ‘vulnerable’ children, such as those with problem behavior or a difficult family life, those with learning difficulties, those involved in minor crimes (like stealing or drinking alcohol). They think these children are less likely to be believed if they tell and often these children don’t have as many reliable adults to tell.
Abusers can groom someone to try to make them agree to the abuse, this is very common with sexual abuse. Grooming can involve giving cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, gifts or money – the idea is to make the child feel loyal to them and that they are a friend to the child. Sometimes abusers starting with ‘online friendships’ or ‘online dating’ and lie about their abuse, this is major cause of abuse.
Grooming can also involve manipulating the child in order to blackmail them – don’t tell or I will tell that you take drugs, don’t tell or I will post rude images of you on the internet. If they do try to post rude images then they are breaking the law and the pictures can be removed, and they have committed a crime.
Abusers lie. They can pretend to be nice people and safe people for children to be around. They often get parents and neighbors to trust them or do charity work, kids can see them as ‘cool’, especially if they break the rules sometimes. They might be friends with a lot of your friends. This is another way to stop children telling. Some people wrongly thing that women don’t abuse children. Some people wrongly thing that boys and young men should be able to stop abuse on their own or that they might be choosing to be sexual with an older woman – but sexual abuse happens to boys too.
You can report it online or by telephone anonymously.
You do not have to be sure it is abuse or neglect to report your suspicions.
Some abusers are parents.
This makes it very hard for a child to tell, because children love their parents and are afraid of what might happen to them. Here is a video from a parent who used to abuse her children, but got help to understand why and to stop the abuse.
Reporting neglect and abuse
New Zealand http://www.occ.org.nz/advice http://www.childmatters.org.nz/
Australia http://www.police.wa.gov.au/YOURSAFETY/ChildProtection/ReportingChildAbuse/tabid/1241/Default.aspx http://au.reachout.com/Emergency-Help
United Kingdom http://www.childline.org.uk
Reporting online child pornography, pedophile sites, grooming for abuse
Reporting pedophiles and images of children being hurt or abused on the internet is easy!
You can do it anonymously.
What can you do today for Child Abuse Prevention Month?
- You can let your friends know you are a safe person to talk to about ‘bad’ things.
- You can share posts like this to help other people learn more about abuse and reporting it.
- You can join the Facebook campaign for a child sexual abuse reporting button https://www.facebook.com/events/420068521414224/
- You can join the Operation Scarecrow group on facebook so you have somewhere to report things to quickly
- You can bookmark or save the online reporting links here http://www.watchdoginternational.net/index.php/child-sexual-abuse/report-child-abuse
- You can follow or ‘like’ http://www.justtell.org/
- You can make your facebook, twitter, tumblr, myspace, pininterest, flickr accounts more secure – block anonymous access and reduce your friends list
- You can add a blue ribbon or Child Abuse prevention/awareness image to your social networking site, or use it as your online image. You can even make one yourself.
- You can find out even more about recognizing abuse and neglect here
- Speaking out against child abuse; Info on the Big Pinwheel Garden (scrink.com)
- NSPCC reveals toll of child-on-child abuse (itv.com)
- Child abuse prevention efforts grow (toledoblade.com)
- Child porn detections up by 48% (bbc.co.uk)
- Typology of Online Pedophiles (cleaninternetcharity.com)
- uKnowKids Provides Sexting Prevention Tips and Resources for Residents of New Jersey in Light of Recent News (prweb.com)
- Home not a safe place for abused kids by Craig Anderson (achildstears.wordpress.com)
- April is Child Abuse Prevention Month (missingheartspageofhopes.wordpress.com)
- Keep Them Safe at Home (geeton1.wordpress.com)